Sometimes this one person makes me SO mad, I want to yell and throw a tantrum just to get out this negative anxious energy his demeaning, sarcastic, stupid words give me. I have to be humble and suppress my anger, especially now that my interactions with him will end soon. One thing I don't understand is why the people who SEE what a jerk he is to me don't do anything to either encourage me or reprimand HIM. I'm being very careful with how much detail I give, and you know why? This person checked my personal email a few weeks ago... yeah...
On a completely different subject, my husband Jake's Uncle "Neb" (name changed) is turning the family upside down. Jake's father "Isaac" has been taking care of his aging mother. Isaac lives in on the same property as Granny, and since Papa G died several years ago, she's been declining mentally and physically. Neb and Granny got into a huge fight after Papa G died, over a truck... he wanted to use it, but under her insurance and name. After he got a DUI, she signed the truck over to him, since he was such a liability. He was pissed off that he'd need to buy his own insurance, and basically wrote off Granny AND Isaac, telling Isaac, "Don't call me till the funeral" (Granny's....).
Over the past year, Granny has gotten worse, especially in the dementia. Isaac had a home-healthcare team assess her and take care of her as long as Medicare would allow, then he hired a nurse to come in several times a week. Isaac walks over to her house multiple times a day, fixing her hot meals and beverages, changing her clothes if she soils them, and talking with her.
Uncle Neb all the sudden came back into the picture early this year. Granny likes to keep cash in her purse, helps her feel like she has some control in her life I think, and Isaac would discover that all of the big bills would be gone after Neb visited. Anywhere from several hundred to a thousand bucks. Granny wouldn't remember where it went. Then Neb "got permission" to borrow Granny's car for a few days. Isaac didn't protest at first, but then Neb refused to return it. Of course Isaac has his own truck, but 1) Granny's car is the only one she can climb in to 2) Neb's got a major drinking problem, and the liability is too great 3) Isaac has power of attorney and Neb had no right to take it. After several months, the car re-appeared.
Ok, so after lots of other little incidents like this...
Ned called Adult Protective Services on Isaac for neglect/abuse of Granny! They investigated and of course found nothing off, because the dear man spends half his time taking care of her. They suggested she might not ought to be left alone at night. So Isaac's been re-arranging their house to bring her down there every night. They would just move her in, but she wants to hold on to some semblance of independence. Isaac bought a monitoring system/intercom and installed it in her home so that he could hear if she needed help. Soon after, Neb visited... and Isaac heard him telling Granny that he (Neb) was the one who'd been taking care of her, that Isaac was just out for her money and house. Now we come to find out, he's bad-mouthing Isaac to all of the other family members, too. Jake and me both are pushing Isaac to get a restraining order on Neb (he has threatened Isaac on numerous occasions).
There's so much more detail I can put in that, but in a large nutshell, that's the craziness Uncle Neb is causing.
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